It’s That Time Again…Mother’s Day

Mother's Day in theory is a lovely idea, but it is also one of those holidays that just creeps up all of a sudden. It's less than a week away and I'm sure the portion of you who have already realized this are in a frenzy over what to get. The standard Mother's Day presents are usually bath salts, a coupon book of things you promise to do for her, a Bath and Body Works lotion basket, or flowers. I've always found Mother's Day interesting because it's as if we expect our Mothers to forgive us for the other 364 days in their year that we may disappoint them. So, to thank her for giving birth us and enduring stretch marks and labor pains we give her bath salts that she will never find time to use, a coupon book of things that we will never get around to doing, a lotion basket that looks exactly like the one she got for her birthday, and flowers with a mundane message that will die within a week. It looks to me that mothers get a lousy deal out of this holiday because for one day we pretend it doesn't annoy us when they give us advice (that wasn't asked for) about our personal lives, or when they tell us to wash the dishes (even though none of them are ours). After that, we go back to ignoring their needs. What exactly is it that mothers need if they don't need bath salts, coupon books, lotion baskets, or flowers? Well, I'll let you in on a little secret. What mothers really want for Mother's Day is to know that you appreciate them. What they really want is some of your time. So, what are my Mother's Day plans? As far as children go my mother has got it made. I never went through an angsty teenager stage or have been much of a troublemaker. I would say that we have a great relationship. This weekend I plan on taking her to the movies and paying for it myself. Not for Mother's Day, just because we both have a day off from work.  Nothing impresses my mother more than my money( because she knows I barely make any) and my time. But, just so she won't feel left out (she won't), I'll send her a Mother's Day e-card. Flowers may die, but memories and e-cards last forever.
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IN RESPONE TO THE CLOSING OF MISSBEHAVE

Dear Samantha Wow, when I heard that  Missbehave would be no more I was very disappointed. From an outsider and fan perspective It's very sad to see such a unique magazine just fall by the way side. From a business owner and editorial contributor perspective, I understand that running a company is no small feat and I commend you on your achievements with Missbehave. Perspectives and life directives change, but I can't help but wonder why Missbehave wasn't sold, or put under new editorial guidance. I think that the mag and online presence could have flourished under the right direction and allowed you to concentrate on your family. One of the most disappointing aspects of Missbehave's closure is that so many people non 'visible minorities' (for lack of better wording) capitalize and gain notoriety on urban culture as a trend. If they are smart enough to do it and have the gusto to pursue than I guess they deserve it, but at the end of the day as a non-white female I don't really have the option of dropping the 'urban' side of me because I started a family. Guess it's just a placed persona and not a chosen one. In no way am I trying to get all up in your personal business nor turn this into a white/ black thing. I don't think it's as binary as that. I'm just bringing it up based on the hegemony of urban magazine editors in relation to their respective media content. Personally I would have been thrilled to assist in any ethical transition that the magazine would have needed to continue. You don't owe me nor anyone an explanation and ultimately, I respect your decision on the matter. For what it's worth I'm thrilled that the mag existed and I'm sure it's made way for more innovative media outlets in the same vein.
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